Making your Initial Divorce Consultation Easier

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The initial consultation with an attorney to discuss divorce can be difficult and an emotional drain. These are some steps that can make the process easier for you.  Bring as much financial information as possible.  The more documentation you gather about your financial situation, the better. Some of the important details are: The income you and your spouse earn The retirement and non-retirement assets you each have Real Estates and Vehicles that you obtain titles … Read more »

Stop Inviting Mom Once the Kids are Adults

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Ex-Etiquette®, runs in countless newspapers and websites all over the world. It is written by Dr. Jann Blackstone, who specializes in child custody, divorce, and stepfamily mediation.  Q. I just finished reading your book “Ex-Etiquette for Parents.”  Kudos for this clear and concise guide to etiquette for blended families and showing how it can be done!  Having been a bonusmom for 18 years now, I was proud to read that we did many things “right” in terms of co-parenting.  My … Read more »

The Saga of Grace and Frankie: Redefining Marriage When a Man Comes Out as Gay

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by Joe Kort, Ph.D.-Psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and relationship therapist It seems that truth is busting out all over the place nowadays. In case you haven’t seen it, there is a new comedy series on Netflix that explores the traumas and foibles of two aging couples when the men have finally admitted that they are gay and in love. Jane Fonda and Martin Sheen, and Lily Tomlin and Sam Waterston star as the two couples, respectively, and Grace … Read more »

10 Things Nora Ephron Taught Us About Heartbreak

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The Huffington Post  |  By Brittany Wong Legendary writer Nora Ephron would have turned 74 on May 19. The author, screenwriter and director died in June 2012, leaving behind a wealth of beloved work, including “When Harry Met Sally,” “Sleepless in Seattle” and multiple memoirs. She also served as the editor-at-large of Huffington Post Divorce. It was a fitting title; the twice-divorced writer taught her fans virtually everything they needed to know about surviving heartbreak. Really, no … Read more »

Establishing a Forum for Conflict Resolution

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by Dr. Jann Blackstone   Problem solving with someone with whom you have broken-up is difficult, to say the least. Even if you get along, when faced with a problem, it’s hard to know exactly what to do to find a solution–together.  One of the primary things I suggest to co-parents do is to establish a Forum for Conflict Resolution to aid them in problem solving–otherwise they will just problem solve the way they always did when they were together. Some fight. Some clam up. Some avoid and withdraw. Some … Read more »

Will Your Divorce Be a War Story or a Peace Story?

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  May 6, 2015 By Andrea Vacca As I picked up The New York State Bar Association Journal earlier in the month, the cover story intrigued me. It was called “More War Stories from the New York Courts.” It was about civil litigation cases that go on for years. The article didn’t discuss divorce, but that’s certainly what was on my mind as I read it. I can’t imagine any parents would want to subject their children … Read more »

What Happens to Pets After a Divorce?

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by Cristin M. Lowe We love our pets, and it seems crazy to think that California law views them as property to be divided in the event of a divorce.  My dogs, Murphy and Wykid Angel, certainly don’t consider themselves property – they are completely offended and horrified at being categorized as such.  So how do we protect ourselves and our furry children in the event of a divorce? 1.  Paperwork matters.  If your pets are AKC registered, make … Read more »

The Six Strategies of Subtle Emotional and Psychological Abuse

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  by Gary Direnfeld May 7, 2015 Much is written about overt abusive behavior, the kind of in-your-face actions that are easily recognizable to virtually anyone. Those more obvious forms of abusive behavior include behaviors such as yelling, screaming, name calling, threatening and intimidating as well as physical forms of violence such as hitting, kicking, pushing, shoving and strangulating up to stabbing and shooting. But what of the more subtle forms of abusive behavior? With the more … Read more »

Sterling v. Stiviano – Gold Diggers Need Not Shake in their Booties

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by Linda Olup Olup Law Offices, Edina MN In March 2015 Rochelle Sterling, as the wife of Donald Sterling, sued V. Stiviano alleging that Ms. Stiviano had received community property in excess of $2.6 million without Mrs. Sterling’s knowledge and consent.  She asked that Ms. Stiviano be ordered to return what she received from Mr. Sterling.  Ms. Stiviano declined to return the assets.  A lawsuit followed. On April 14, 2015 Ms. Stiviano was ordered by Superior Court Judge Richard Fruin … Read more »

Keeping Your Children's Lives Going in Divorce: Ten Things You Can Do

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by Elizabeth Salin, MFT OMG!  It is the end of April and you haven’t planned things for your children for the summer!  You may be recently separated and have been busy and overwhelmed by setting up two homes, juggling your kid’s school work and equipment, communicating with your co-parent, paying attention to homework, potty training or SAT prep.  You may be already divorced but have not set up a time to work on summer planning yet. It is no … Read more »