Narcissistic Partner? How to manage or leave.

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by Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW In my article, The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man, I detail the strategies used by narcissists and sociopaths to manipulate their partners. That article received more comments than anything else I had written. I was castigated by some for attributing the abuse to men and I was praised by others for clearly detailing the offensive and off-putting behavior they were never quite able to label before. I think those men who have … Read more »

Suggested Reading for those Considering Divorce Mediation

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Mediation is about working together, doing things in the best interests of your children and focusing on being able to be parents for your children for years to come. Unfortunately, divorce in the court system is designed to put up that wall and limit communication, which inevitably leads to many post divorce problems and many more hours and thousands of dollars in court. These books may prove helpful for those considering mediation … Read more »

Divorce Without Court: Ben and Jen Prevent a Divorce War

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by Michael Aurit, JD, MDR -Founder, The Aurit Center For Divorce Mediation in Scottsdale, Arizona, professional mediator and attorney Divorce wars continue to ruin families and cause serious harm to children. Child custody battles rage on in our court system. Spouses often spend more on attorney fees than their total net worth. At a time when our court-driven culture still leads many divorcing parents to aggressive attorneys for the purpose of “protecting their children, and assets,” two of … Read more »

Five Reasons Why Divorce Mediation Isn't More Popular

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by Betsy Ross-Psychotherapist; Divorce and Relationship Coach; Mediator Even though we mediators love to tout the benefits of using divorce mediation over other divorce processes (especially traditional, court-based divorce) it is not the most popular process. Mediation just isn’t the number one choice (yet) despite the facts that: it usually costs less, is faster and more efficient, and is a gentler and more peaceful process. It also offers spouses the greatest degree of control over their own decision … Read more »

Lawyers to Discuss Guide to Divorce Process in NM

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from the Albuquerque Journal, Sunday, October 18, 2015 Albuquerque Family Law attorneys Sandra Morgan Little, Jan Gilman-Tepper, and Roberta Batley will sign their new book, “Divorce in New Mexico: The Legal Process, Your Rights, and What to Expect” at 10 a.m., Saturday, October 24, at Barnes & Noble Booksellers, 6600 Menaul NE in the Coronado Shopping Center. The guide provided accurate and objective information to help make the right decisions during a divorce.  It provides answers to 360 … Read more »

How a Simple Divorce Checklist Can Keep You From Making These 10 Common Mistakes

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by Karen Covy Few life events are as complicated or overwhelming as divorce. It is not surprising, then, that while you are trying to rearrange your life, get a grip on your finances, navigate the legal system, help your children adjust to a new reality and ride the emotional roller coaster of divorce, important things can fall through the cracks. That’s why having a good divorce checklist is so important. Here are 10 common mistakes that you can … Read more »

3 Must-Have Documents for the Post-Divorce You

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Diane L. Danois, J.D. – Attorney, representing clients involved in complex cases involving science,                                               medicine and law   It takes just one document, a marriage certificate, to get hitched. Most divorces, on the other hand, require a multitude of paperwork … a petition for dissolution of marriage, answer to the petition, marital settlement agreement, reciprocal … Read more »

Divorcing a Narcissist: 5 Top Tips

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by Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. You won’t get a dime from me. I’ll make sure you never see the kids again. You’ll be out on the streets. I’ll spend every cent I have to fight you… Do any — or all — of these threats sound familiar? If your answer is yes, there is a good chance that your soon-to-be former spouse is a narcissist. Controlling, combative, and rarely contrite, a narcissist can turn an unpleasant divorce into … Read more »

The Tale of the Land Turtle and the Sea Turtle -- How to Explain Divorce to Young Children

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Christine Amour-Levar   –Social Entrepreneur, Marketing Consultant & Author Children often suffer pain, confusion and insecurity when their parents separate. In some cases they even blame themselves, or feel that somehow it’s their fault their parents no longer want to be together. Many children secretly harbor fantasies — sometimes for years — that their parents will one day reconcile and get back together. At the very least, they hope and dream their parents can be friends. When my ex-husband and … Read more »