Divorce Island-How People Change When Getting Divorced

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 by Mark Banschick M.D. from Pschology Today Your Your ex-wife’s different now, and dismisses what you have to say about the kids or undermines you as a parent. Your can’t get money from your ex-husband, something he never did in the past. Your seven-year-old is wetting her bed again. You discover that your eleven-year-old is sucking his thumb. Your angry adolescent has become a goody two-shoes. Your friends don’t call. And, you are surprised by the people that do call. What is going … Read more »

How to Co-Parent With Style and Grace

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by Michela Montgomery Whether you’re newly divorced or have been on your own for a while, there is one constant; co-parenting is hard. I doesn’t matter if you’re ex is June Cleaver or Bette Davis. The fact is that raising kids is hard enough, and now you have the added bonus of seven degrees of separation to the mix. However, by following a few simple rules of thumb, you can improve your relationship with your ex (and your kids) and … Read more »

Confessions of a Part-Time Mom

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Divorce and shared custody suits me, and it suits my kids, too. I am far more able to be present knowing that, sooner or later, I get to be absent. By Lara Bazelon from the AAML Weekly Eblast I know how I am supposed to feel about my divorced-parent reality. A good mother would be devastated to lose thousands of dinner-bath-bedtime-story evenings. A good mother would be heartsick to wake up alone. Deprived of her children full time, a good … Read more »

How do you keep a family together after a divorce?

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By Samantha Shanley from the AAML Weekly Eblast For years, I was under the impression that my husband and I had cultivated the near-perfect marriage, the two of us like His and Her Majesty, presiding over an enviable life. I wasn’t the only one who saw it so plainly. “You two are in your prime!” my uncle remarked last winter, echoing what many who knew us must have been thinking, too. I grinned back at him, but inside I … Read more »

Military Disability Pay and Divorce

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by Chris Barondeau , a divorce attorney with the Goosmann Law Firm in Sioux City, Iowa. From the ABA Family Law Newsletter April, 2017. How would you describe your marriage? If you are currently considering divorce, you might say “it’s complicated.” When one spouse is receiving military disability pay, you might think this makes the divorce process complicated as well. It can be difficult to understand how military disability pay factors into your divorce. However, by obtaining basic information about the … Read more »