Should You Hire A Male or Female Attorney?

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We get this question a lot from potential clients. Possibly because in family law people believe there may be biases associated with various genders or gender roles.  “If she has a female attorney I need a female attorney too, or vice-versa.”  In my experience the decision whether to hire a male or female attorney should be based on anything, but the gender of the attorney.  I have never walked out of a hearing thinking the gender of the … Read more »

Tips from a Judge on Finding the Right Attorney


Attorney Randy Powers shares Judge Kass’ perspective regarding effective legal representation. Randy W. Powers, Jr. Esq. Good Divorce Lawyers Tell You Bad News by Honorable Anne Kass. Ann Kass is a District Judge in the Second Judicial District State of New Mexico I have heard people who are thinking about getting a divorce say, “I want the meanest, toughest attorney I can find. I want a fighter.” I always shudder and say that a fighter is … Read more »

Communicating With 3rd Parties About Your Case

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Family law cases can be stressful, and it is extremely common to vent about such frustrations to family members, friends, significant others, co-workers, etcetera. However, we would recommend that you exercise caution, and remember the following before doing so: Your communications are not protected under the attorney-client privilege. Only communications between you and your lawyer are privileged. This means the opposing party could call the person you communicated with as an adverse witness against you. They could … Read more »

Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze? - Picking and Choosing Your Battles in A Family Law Case

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In a family law case it is always important to try and focus on your larger long term goals. By doing so you will achieve more favorable results in the long run, and avoid unnecessary skirmishes along the way.  You will also avoid more conflict with the opposing party.  This will not only save you attorney fees, but may result in a higher likelihood of settlement. Before rushing to the courthouse you should consider how much is … Read more »

Dating before Your Divorce is Finalized

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It happened. You or your spouse decided it is time to go your separate ways and you are ready to move on.  You suddenly realize you have so much to do now.  Time to update your Facebook relationship status, change your profile picture create a bumble account, swipe left and right for hours on end, and go out with your friends to mingle.  I mean why you shouldn’t date since the paperwork is already started? The … Read more »

Nervous About Going to Court? - Tips to Get You Through It

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If you don’t know what to say, how to say it, get nervous, or just need someone who can be your voice you should really consider hiring counsel. Your lawyer is your advocate, your shark, and in Court – your very best friend. Your lawyer has spent hundreds if not thousands of hours in the courtroom. They know the Judge, the bailiff, and know how to protect you when you need to be protected. If you have a … Read more »

Guardian Ad Litem- Child Advocate

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Appointment of a Guardian Ad Litem by the Court can be beneficial to settlement of various Custody and Timesharing disputes.   The following article provides a good perspective of the purpose and work of a Guardian Ad Litem.  I enjoy the work I do as Guardian Ad Litem and how I’m able to assist families through this process. Reprinted from the Albuquerque Journal Thursday, April 8, 2004 Guardian Ad Litem Argues for the Child … Read more »

A Guardian Ad Litem Argues for the Child


By Lisa A. Torraco-Visiting assistant professor of law-UNM School of Law Child custody cases take a toll on all people involved. This is especially true with children. There are ways to shelter children from the pains of battling parents and court fights. Of course one way is to keep the children as far from the legal proceedings as possible. This, of course, is more easily said than done. Courts and legislators recognize that children, especially young children, should not … Read more »

Military Disability Pay and Divorce


by Chris Barondeau , a divorce attorney with the Goosmann Law Firm in Sioux City, Iowa. From the ABA Family Law Newsletter April, 2017. How would you describe your marriage? If you are currently considering divorce, you might say “it’s complicated.” When one spouse is receiving military disability pay, you might think this makes the divorce process complicated as well. It can be difficult to understand how military disability pay factors into your divorce. However, by obtaining basic information about the … Read more »

Praise for Adoptive Moms and Stepmoms on Mother's Day


Mother is a verb. Shared genes are optional. Denise Cummins Ph.D-from Psychology Today What do adoptive moms and stepmoms have in common? They believe that a family is a group of people who love and care for each other, and shared genes are optional. Birth Moms Nature gives birth mothers an advantage when it comes to forming emotional bonds with their children. During childbirth, both baby and mother are flooded with oxytocin—the hormone that promotes emotional bonding. Most birth mothers … Read more »