Proper Courtroom Etiquette

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It should always be the goal of attorneys and parties in a domestic matter to resolve things outside of the courtroom; however, when efforts to negotiate fail or where one party needs to seek some form of emergency relief, it may be necessary to access the judicial system in order to get the matter resolved.  The following is a list of do’s and don’ts for parties in the courtroom: 1.ALWAYS DRESS APPROPRIATELY The courtroom should always be treated as … Read more »

When Going Through a Divorce Focus on the Long Run Decisions

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When going through a divorce case it is extremely easy to get wrapped up in the conflict with your spouse, and engage in every little skirmish.  Throughout the case you will have to constantly weigh how important issues are to you, and whether you want litigate or mediate those issues.  These fights can be extremely costly as you try to minimize attorney fees, and can be even more costly on your mental health.  Unfortunately, I hear … Read more »

Don’t Take the Bait! - Speaking with Your Children About the Details of Your Divorce Case

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How children process your divorce, and whether they have scars as a result of the divorce are things that you can help control.  Child custody research shows that conflict among parents is incredibly harmful to children.  Not the physical separation between parents, but the actual conflict. Perhaps your spouse is telling the children about the specifics of your divorce case.  Your natural reaction would probably be to immediately correct any falsehoods, and tell your version of events.  … Read more »

5 Simple Steps to Keep the Holidays Special for your Children After Divorce

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Holidays are often filled with joy and excitement for children but can also be a source of pain and sadness when the family is no longer together. Navigating two households during the holidays requires adults to put their own feelings aside and focus on the children first. Here are five simple steps to assist in keeping the holidays special for everyone involved. Start new traditions – This is a big one. This is an opportunity to … Read more »

Should You Hire A Male or Female Attorney?

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We get this question a lot from potential clients. Possibly because in family law people believe there may be biases associated with various genders or gender roles.  “If she has a female attorney I need a female attorney too, or vice-versa.”  In my experience the decision whether to hire a male or female attorney should be based on anything, but the gender of the attorney.  I have never walked out of a hearing thinking the gender of the … Read more »

Communicating With 3rd Parties About Your Case

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Family law cases can be stressful, and it is extremely common to vent about such frustrations to family members, friends, significant others, co-workers, etcetera. However, we would recommend that you exercise caution, and remember the following before doing so: Your communications are not protected under the attorney-client privilege. Only communications between you and your lawyer are privileged. This means the opposing party could call the person you communicated with as an adverse witness against you. They could … Read more »

Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze? - Picking and Choosing Your Battles in A Family Law Case

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In a family law case it is always important to try and focus on your larger long term goals. By doing so you will achieve more favorable results in the long run, and avoid unnecessary skirmishes along the way.  You will also avoid more conflict with the opposing party.  This will not only save you attorney fees, but may result in a higher likelihood of settlement. Before rushing to the courthouse you should consider how much is … Read more »

Dating before Your Divorce is Finalized

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It happened. You or your spouse decided it is time to go your separate ways and you are ready to move on.  You suddenly realize you have so much to do now.  Time to update your Facebook relationship status, change your profile picture create a bumble account, swipe left and right for hours on end, and go out with your friends to mingle.  I mean why you shouldn’t date since the paperwork is already started? The … Read more »

8 Tips for Successful Legal Representation

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Here are 8 tips we share with our clients for making their legal representation successful. Active involvement by the client and an understanding of how he or she can help or hinder the process is key to the ultimate success of the representation. YOUR GOALS – Jot down your goals and send them to your attorney.  As your case progresses, it’s important for you and your attorney to be mindful of them as you make decisions about the … Read more »

Guardian Ad Litem- Child Advocate

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Appointment of a Guardian Ad Litem by the Court can be beneficial to settlement of various Custody and Timesharing disputes.   The following article provides a good perspective of the purpose and work of a Guardian Ad Litem.  I enjoy the work I do as Guardian Ad Litem and how I’m able to assist families through this process. Reprinted from the Albuquerque Journal Thursday, April 8, 2004 Guardian Ad Litem Argues for the Child … Read more »