How do you keep a family together after a divorce?

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By Samantha Shanley from the AAML Weekly Eblast For years, I was under the impression that my husband and I had cultivated the near-perfect marriage, the two of us like His and Her Majesty, presiding over an enviable life. I wasn’t the only one who saw it so plainly. “You two are in your prime!” my uncle remarked last winter, echoing what many who knew us must have been thinking, too. I grinned back at him, but inside I … Read more »

Military Disability Pay and Divorce

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by Chris Barondeau , a divorce attorney with the Goosmann Law Firm in Sioux City, Iowa. From the ABA Family Law Newsletter April, 2017. How would you describe your marriage? If you are currently considering divorce, you might say “it’s complicated.” When one spouse is receiving military disability pay, you might think this makes the divorce process complicated as well. It can be difficult to understand how military disability pay factors into your divorce. However, by obtaining basic information about the … Read more »

Who Should You Tell When You’re Over Your Divorce?

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You need to let them know that you’ve moved on. Diane L. Danois, J.D., Contributor to the Huffington Post Divorce Following a lengthy process of soul-searching and decision-making about what is most important in life, a moment of enlightenment occurs for many people post-divorce: they move on. They leave behind the vitriol and acidity of the years leading up to their divorce, and they re-learn how to live independently. They find themselves. They reinvent themselves. And for many, they … Read more »

The Only Divorce Coping Tool You’ll Need for the Holidays

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Andra Brosh, PhD from GoodTherapy.org For many people reading this, this Easter/Passover is their first holiday season post-divorce. Getting through the holiday can compound an already stressful life transition. Managing the loss and grief on top of holiday socializing, shopping, and gift giving can be beyond overwhelming. My marriage ended several years ago right before Thanksgiving, and I clearly remember wondering how I would make it through the end of the year. I like to think of this time as … Read more »

10 Helpful Books About Divorce

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Learn to help your kids cope with the realities of divorce. by Laura Broadwell-Parent’s Magazine Books for Kids Sometimes reading a story about divorce can help a child make sense of his feelings and understand that he is not alone. A good book can also be a springboard for discussion between parents and kids. Here is a sampling of 10 books that may help you on your journey. Dinosaurs Divorce By Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown Dinosaur … Read more »

"What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Divorced"

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Discover 10 important pieces of advice these women learned the hard way BY NATASHA BURTON from Woman’s Day Magazine Hindsight’s 20/20, so there’s no one better than ex-wives to tell you what to do (and not to do) if you’re going through—or just contemplating—a divorce. Here, real women share what they wish they’d known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they’ve seen clients make. Read more »

10 Most Common Reasons for Divorce

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by Shellie R Warren- author, writer, marriage life coach and doula- from Marriage .com Marriage isn’t always easy and the sad reality is that not all “I do’s” end with a happily ever after no matter how much two people may love each other. It’s estimated that 40 to 50 percent of all first marriages, and 60 percent of second marriages in the United States, end in divorce. This can be hard to grasp for someone who is about … Read more »

8 Things Kids Of Divorce Want Parents To Know

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by Brittany Wong-The Huffington Post Divorce Parents going through divorce are constantly on the lookout for expert advice on how to raise healthy, resilient kids. But hey, the kids themselves just might have the best answers. Below, eight writers share what it was like growing up with divorced parents and the one piece of advice they want to pass on. 1. YOU HAVE NOT FAILED AS A PARENT. “This might be hard to believe especially if you’re newly divorced, … Read more »

Starting Places for Learning About Good Divorce

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These sites help families during the tough transition of divorce and thereafter. Wendy Paris-Splitopia-Pyschology Today contributor Dear Wendy, I have kids and want to make the process of divorce as collaborative as possible with my ex. But when I try to do research online, it seems like everyone is trying to sell me something, when all I really want is some hard-and-fast information about the new, “Good Divorce.” What are some good resources for getting through a divorce? —Drowning … Read more »

How To Divorce Like A Grown-Up (And Co-Parent Like One, Too)

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Here’s how to split up as amicably as possible. by Brittany Wong The Huffington Post The divorce process can be ugly or remarkably civil. If you’re hoping to split up amicably, it’s important to first do your homework, advised Morghan Richardson, a divorce attorney based in Astoria, New York.  “Just a little information about the start of the process can go a long way in establishing that you are using the divorce process as a tool, not a weapon,” she … Read more »