Proper Courtroom Etiquette

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It should always be the goal of attorneys and parties in a domestic matter to resolve things outside of the courtroom; however, when efforts to negotiate fail or where one party needs to seek some form of emergency relief, it may be necessary to access the judicial system in order to get the matter resolved.  The following is a list of do’s and don’ts for parties in the courtroom: 1.ALWAYS DRESS APPROPRIATELY The courtroom should always be treated as … Read more »

The Mathematics of Divorce: 6 Steps to a Strong Financial Future After the Divorce is Finalized

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Unfortunately, the dynamics of divorcing means one household will soon become two. Depending on your current lifestyle, this can stretch a budget to its breaking point. Fortunately, there are several steps you can take to prepare yourself for living on one income. These steps can be tedious and definitely are not fun, but they make a huge difference in preparing you for your future. Step 1: Run your credit report: Running a credit report tells you several things. Read more »

When Going Through a Divorce Focus on the Long Run Decisions

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When going through a divorce case it is extremely easy to get wrapped up in the conflict with your spouse, and engage in every little skirmish.  Throughout the case you will have to constantly weigh how important issues are to you, and whether you want litigate or mediate those issues.  These fights can be extremely costly as you try to minimize attorney fees, and can be even more costly on your mental health.  Unfortunately, I hear … Read more »

Three Easy Steps to Change Last Your Name After a Divorce in New Mexico

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Although it is legal to keep your married name after a divorce, many women find that returning to their maiden name is a step toward a fresh start.  It is important that you let your attorney know you would like to change your last name prior to the entry of the final divorce decree, as your attorney will need to include that information in the divorce decree. While you can change your last name after the entry … Read more »

Should You Hire A Male or Female Attorney?

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We get this question a lot from potential clients. Possibly because in family law people believe there may be biases associated with various genders or gender roles.  “If she has a female attorney I need a female attorney too, or vice-versa.”  In my experience the decision whether to hire a male or female attorney should be based on anything, but the gender of the attorney.  I have never walked out of a hearing thinking the gender of the … Read more »

Communicating With 3rd Parties About Your Case

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Family law cases can be stressful, and it is extremely common to vent about such frustrations to family members, friends, significant others, co-workers, etcetera. However, we would recommend that you exercise caution, and remember the following before doing so: Your communications are not protected under the attorney-client privilege. Only communications between you and your lawyer are privileged. This means the opposing party could call the person you communicated with as an adverse witness against you. They could … Read more »

Dating before Your Divorce is Finalized

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It happened. You or your spouse decided it is time to go your separate ways and you are ready to move on.  You suddenly realize you have so much to do now.  Time to update your Facebook relationship status, change your profile picture create a bumble account, swipe left and right for hours on end, and go out with your friends to mingle.  I mean why you shouldn’t date since the paperwork is already started? The … Read more »

8 Tips for Successful Legal Representation

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Here are 8 tips we share with our clients for making their legal representation successful. Active involvement by the client and an understanding of how he or she can help or hinder the process is key to the ultimate success of the representation. YOUR GOALS – Jot down your goals and send them to your attorney.  As your case progresses, it’s important for you and your attorney to be mindful of them as you make decisions about the … Read more »

Divorce Recovery Tips

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Sheryl Saavedra, attorney with Little, Gilman-Tepper & Batley, recognizes the difficulty clients face getting through a divorce.  She recommends the following article as assistance during this challenging time. By Lucy Benton as published in Divorce Magazine.com How to navigate your way through the ups and downs of divorce recovery. Divorce is a painful experience that impacts you in a number of ways. Even though everyone’s divorce history is different, it has a profound negative impact on self-esteem, financial … Read more »

Tips for Anger Management During Divorce

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Anger between divorcing couples can derail settlement attempts.  It also may hinder the development of good parenting plans for the children.  The following link by Jane Zatylny provides excellent tips for managing anger during divorce.   http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/coping-with-divorce-related-anger Ms. Zatylny’s tips are useful guidelines to apply. COPING WITH DIVORCE-RELATED ANGER From Jane Zatylny Here’s some advice about coping with your own and your ex-spouse’s divorce-related anger. If You are Angry Write it out. Work through your … Read more »