A Guardian Ad Litem Argues for the Child

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By Lisa A. Torraco-Visiting assistant professor of law-UNM School of Law Child custody cases take a toll on all people involved. This is especially true with children. There are ways to shelter children from the pains of battling parents and court fights. Of course one way is to keep the children as far from the legal proceedings as possible. This, of course, is more easily said than done. Courts and legislators recognize that children, especially young children, should not … Read more »

7 Issues All Co-Parents Face And How To Overcome Them

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Your attitude about the situation is the one thing that’s completely in your control. by Carolin Lehmann Co-parenting is no walk in the park. Disagreements about discipline, schedules and bed times can unravel even the most level-headed parent ― and when kids play their parents against one another, all hell threatens to break loose. Below, experts share the issues that come up most frequently for co-parents and how to manage them. 1. Talking badly about the other parent. “When you put down their … Read more »

How to Co-Parent With Style and Grace

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by Michela Montgomery Whether you’re newly divorced or have been on your own for a while, there is one constant; co-parenting is hard. I doesn’t matter if you’re ex is June Cleaver or Bette Davis. The fact is that raising kids is hard enough, and now you have the added bonus of seven degrees of separation to the mix. However, by following a few simple rules of thumb, you can improve your relationship with your ex (and your kids) and … Read more »

Confessions of a Part-Time Mom

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Divorce and shared custody suits me, and it suits my kids, too. I am far more able to be present knowing that, sooner or later, I get to be absent. By Lara Bazelon from the AAML Weekly Eblast I know how I am supposed to feel about my divorced-parent reality. A good mother would be devastated to lose thousands of dinner-bath-bedtime-story evenings. A good mother would be heartsick to wake up alone. Deprived of her children full time, a good … Read more »

How do you keep a family together after a divorce?

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By Samantha Shanley from the AAML Weekly Eblast For years, I was under the impression that my husband and I had cultivated the near-perfect marriage, the two of us like His and Her Majesty, presiding over an enviable life. I wasn’t the only one who saw it so plainly. “You two are in your prime!” my uncle remarked last winter, echoing what many who knew us must have been thinking, too. I grinned back at him, but inside I … Read more »

I'm Divorcing: 5 Tips for Coordinating Family Vacations With Your Ex

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How to make traveling with the kids easy before and after divorce by Jennifer Brandt on ParentMap  With summer just around the corner, many families are looking forward to annual family vacations. A lot of effort and money goes into vacation planning. For divorcing or divorced parents, the possibility of a former spouse interfering with a planned vacation becomes yet another logistic to consider. Here are five tips for pleasant vacation planning. Before you sign the custody agreement: 1. Set … Read more »

6 Summer Vacation Tips for Divorced or Separated Parents

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By Kyung (Kathryn) Dickerson from the Huffington Post Divorce Co-authored by Alan Plevy, Co-founding Principal at SmolenPlevy It’s an annual rite of Spring — children are eagerly anticipating the end of the school year and the start of their summer break. The same can’t be said for a number of divorced or separated parents. Summer vacation can deteriorate into a very stressful, chaotic and combative time for parents who share custody as well as a confusing time for their … Read more »

5 Great Tips for Co-parenting Through the Holidays

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Posted by coparently.com team Easter is fast approaching. With it comes all those familiar stress factors for divorced and separated families. Holidays bring home the thought of coming together as a family. It’s often thought that a successful holiday means one big, happy family enjoying the festivities together. In movies, songs, television, and any other aspect of our media and culture, we are continuously reminded that the holidays are a time for the celebration of family. So when … Read more »

Praise for Adoptive Moms and Stepmoms on Mother's Day

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Mother is a verb. Shared genes are optional. Denise Cummins Ph.D-from Psychology Today What do adoptive moms and stepmoms have in common? They believe that a family is a group of people who love and care for each other, and shared genes are optional. Birth Moms Nature gives birth mothers an advantage when it comes to forming emotional bonds with their children. During childbirth, both baby and mother are flooded with oxytocin—the hormone that promotes emotional bonding. Most birth mothers … Read more »

10 Helpful Books About Divorce

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Learn to help your kids cope with the realities of divorce. by Laura Broadwell-Parent’s Magazine Books for Kids Sometimes reading a story about divorce can help a child make sense of his feelings and understand that he is not alone. A good book can also be a springboard for discussion between parents and kids. Here is a sampling of 10 books that may help you on your journey. Dinosaurs Divorce By Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown Dinosaur … Read more »