Confessions of a Part-Time Mom

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Divorce and shared custody suits me, and it suits my kids, too. I am far more able to be present knowing that, sooner or later, I get to be absent. By Lara Bazelon from the AAML Weekly Eblast I know how I am supposed to feel about my divorced-parent reality. A good mother would be devastated to lose thousands of dinner-bath-bedtime-story evenings. A good mother would be heartsick to wake up alone. Deprived of her children full time, a good … Read more »

How do you keep a family together after a divorce?

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By Samantha Shanley from the AAML Weekly Eblast For years, I was under the impression that my husband and I had cultivated the near-perfect marriage, the two of us like His and Her Majesty, presiding over an enviable life. I wasn’t the only one who saw it so plainly. “You two are in your prime!” my uncle remarked last winter, echoing what many who knew us must have been thinking, too. I grinned back at him, but inside I … Read more »

I'm Divorcing: 5 Tips for Coordinating Family Vacations With Your Ex

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How to make traveling with the kids easy before and after divorce by Jennifer Brandt on ParentMap  With summer just around the corner, many families are looking forward to annual family vacations. A lot of effort and money goes into vacation planning. For divorcing or divorced parents, the possibility of a former spouse interfering with a planned vacation becomes yet another logistic to consider. Here are five tips for pleasant vacation planning. Before you sign the custody agreement: 1. Set … Read more »

6 Summer Vacation Tips for Divorced or Separated Parents

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By Kyung (Kathryn) Dickerson from the Huffington Post Divorce Co-authored by Alan Plevy, Co-founding Principal at SmolenPlevy It’s an annual rite of Spring — children are eagerly anticipating the end of the school year and the start of their summer break. The same can’t be said for a number of divorced or separated parents. Summer vacation can deteriorate into a very stressful, chaotic and combative time for parents who share custody as well as a confusing time for their … Read more »

5 Great Tips for Co-parenting Through the Holidays

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Posted by coparently.com team Easter is fast approaching. With it comes all those familiar stress factors for divorced and separated families. Holidays bring home the thought of coming together as a family. It’s often thought that a successful holiday means one big, happy family enjoying the festivities together. In movies, songs, television, and any other aspect of our media and culture, we are continuously reminded that the holidays are a time for the celebration of family. So when … Read more »

Praise for Adoptive Moms and Stepmoms on Mother's Day

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Mother is a verb. Shared genes are optional. Denise Cummins Ph.D-from Psychology Today What do adoptive moms and stepmoms have in common? They believe that a family is a group of people who love and care for each other, and shared genes are optional. Birth Moms Nature gives birth mothers an advantage when it comes to forming emotional bonds with their children. During childbirth, both baby and mother are flooded with oxytocin—the hormone that promotes emotional bonding. Most birth mothers … Read more »

10 Helpful Books About Divorce

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Learn to help your kids cope with the realities of divorce. by Laura Broadwell-Parent’s Magazine Books for Kids Sometimes reading a story about divorce can help a child make sense of his feelings and understand that he is not alone. A good book can also be a springboard for discussion between parents and kids. Here is a sampling of 10 books that may help you on your journey. Dinosaurs Divorce By Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown Dinosaur … Read more »

"What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Divorced"

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Discover 10 important pieces of advice these women learned the hard way BY NATASHA BURTON from Woman’s Day Magazine Hindsight’s 20/20, so there’s no one better than ex-wives to tell you what to do (and not to do) if you’re going through—or just contemplating—a divorce. Here, real women share what they wish they’d known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they’ve seen clients make. Read more »

8 Things Kids Of Divorce Want Parents To Know

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by Brittany Wong-The Huffington Post Divorce Parents going through divorce are constantly on the lookout for expert advice on how to raise healthy, resilient kids. But hey, the kids themselves just might have the best answers. Below, eight writers share what it was like growing up with divorced parents and the one piece of advice they want to pass on. 1. YOU HAVE NOT FAILED AS A PARENT. “This might be hard to believe especially if you’re newly divorced, … Read more »

Starting Places for Learning About Good Divorce

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These sites help families during the tough transition of divorce and thereafter. Wendy Paris-Splitopia-Pyschology Today contributor Dear Wendy, I have kids and want to make the process of divorce as collaborative as possible with my ex. But when I try to do research online, it seems like everyone is trying to sell me something, when all I really want is some hard-and-fast information about the new, “Good Divorce.” What are some good resources for getting through a divorce? —Drowning … Read more »