When Going Through a Divorce Focus on the Long Run Decisions

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When going through a divorce case it is extremely easy to get wrapped up in the conflict with your spouse, and engage in every little skirmish.  Throughout the case you will have to constantly weigh how important issues are to you, and whether you want litigate or mediate those issues.  These fights can be extremely costly as you try to minimize attorney fees, and can be even more costly on your mental health.  Unfortunately, I hear … Read more »

Don’t Take the Bait! - Speaking with Your Children About the Details of Your Divorce Case

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How children process your divorce, and whether they have scars as a result of the divorce are things that you can help control.  Child custody research shows that conflict among parents is incredibly harmful to children.  Not the physical separation between parents, but the actual conflict. Perhaps your spouse is telling the children about the specifics of your divorce case.  Your natural reaction would probably be to immediately correct any falsehoods, and tell your version of events.  … Read more »

5 Simple Steps to Keep the Holidays Special for your Children After Divorce


Holidays are often filled with joy and excitement for children but can also be a source of pain and sadness when the family is no longer together. Navigating two households during the holidays requires adults to put their own feelings aside and focus on the children first. Here are five simple steps to assist in keeping the holidays special for everyone involved. Start new traditions – This is a big one. This is an opportunity to … Read more »

Communicating With 3rd Parties About Your Case

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Family law cases can be stressful, and it is extremely common to vent about such frustrations to family members, friends, significant others, co-workers, etcetera. However, we would recommend that you exercise caution, and remember the following before doing so: Your communications are not protected under the attorney-client privilege. Only communications between you and your lawyer are privileged. This means the opposing party could call the person you communicated with as an adverse witness against you. They could … Read more »

Dating before Your Divorce is Finalized

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It happened. You or your spouse decided it is time to go your separate ways and you are ready to move on.  You suddenly realize you have so much to do now.  Time to update your Facebook relationship status, change your profile picture create a bumble account, swipe left and right for hours on end, and go out with your friends to mingle.  I mean why you shouldn’t date since the paperwork is already started? The … Read more »

Tips for Anger Management During Divorce

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Anger between divorcing couples can derail settlement attempts.  It also may hinder the development of good parenting plans for the children.  The following link by Jane Zatylny provides excellent tips for managing anger during divorce.   http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/coping-with-divorce-related-anger Ms. Zatylny’s tips are useful guidelines to apply. COPING WITH DIVORCE-RELATED ANGER From Jane Zatylny Here’s some advice about coping with your own and your ex-spouse’s divorce-related anger. If You are Angry Write it out. Work through your … Read more »

Virtual Visitation Opens Doors with Children

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The attorneys at Little, Gilman-Tepper & Batley recognize the importance of close, regular contact with loved ones even when far away.  “The good news is that modern technology, in the form of virtual parenting time, offers at least a partial solution to the problem of long-distance parenting.”  The following article shares great tips on how to keep fun connections with your kids even from a distance. When You Can’t Be There in Person Virtual visitation can … Read more »

A Guardian Ad Litem Argues for the Child


By Lisa A. Torraco-Visiting assistant professor of law-UNM School of Law Child custody cases take a toll on all people involved. This is especially true with children. There are ways to shelter children from the pains of battling parents and court fights. Of course one way is to keep the children as far from the legal proceedings as possible. This, of course, is more easily said than done. Courts and legislators recognize that children, especially young children, should not … Read more »

7 Issues All Co-Parents Face And How To Overcome Them


Your attitude about the situation is the one thing that’s completely in your control. by Carolin Lehmann Co-parenting is no walk in the park. Disagreements about discipline, schedules and bed times can unravel even the most level-headed parent ― and when kids play their parents against one another, all hell threatens to break loose. Below, experts share the issues that come up most frequently for co-parents and how to manage them. 1. Talking badly about the other parent. “When you put down their … Read more »

How to Co-Parent With Style and Grace


by Michela Montgomery Whether you’re newly divorced or have been on your own for a while, there is one constant; co-parenting is hard. I doesn’t matter if you’re ex is June Cleaver or Bette Davis. The fact is that raising kids is hard enough, and now you have the added bonus of seven degrees of separation to the mix. However, by following a few simple rules of thumb, you can improve your relationship with your ex (and your kids) and … Read more »