Confessions of a Part-Time Mom

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Divorce and shared custody suits me, and it suits my kids, too. I am far more able to be present knowing that, sooner or later, I get to be absent. By Lara Bazelon from the AAML Weekly Eblast I know how I am supposed to feel about my divorced-parent reality. A good mother would be devastated to lose thousands of dinner-bath-bedtime-story evenings. A good mother would be heartsick to wake up alone. Deprived of her children full time, a good … Read more »

How do you keep a family together after a divorce?

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By Samantha Shanley from the AAML Weekly Eblast For years, I was under the impression that my husband and I had cultivated the near-perfect marriage, the two of us like His and Her Majesty, presiding over an enviable life. I wasn’t the only one who saw it so plainly. “You two are in your prime!” my uncle remarked last winter, echoing what many who knew us must have been thinking, too. I grinned back at him, but inside I … Read more »

Military Disability Pay and Divorce

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by Chris Barondeau , a divorce attorney with the Goosmann Law Firm in Sioux City, Iowa. From the ABA Family Law Newsletter April, 2017. How would you describe your marriage? If you are currently considering divorce, you might say “it’s complicated.” When one spouse is receiving military disability pay, you might think this makes the divorce process complicated as well. It can be difficult to understand how military disability pay factors into your divorce. However, by obtaining basic information about the … Read more »

I'm Divorcing: 5 Tips for Coordinating Family Vacations With Your Ex

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How to make traveling with the kids easy before and after divorce by Jennifer Brandt on ParentMap  With summer just around the corner, many families are looking forward to annual family vacations. A lot of effort and money goes into vacation planning. For divorcing or divorced parents, the possibility of a former spouse interfering with a planned vacation becomes yet another logistic to consider. Here are five tips for pleasant vacation planning. Before you sign the custody agreement: 1. Set … Read more »

6 Summer Vacation Tips for Divorced or Separated Parents

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By Kyung (Kathryn) Dickerson from the Huffington Post Divorce Co-authored by Alan Plevy, Co-founding Principal at SmolenPlevy It’s an annual rite of Spring — children are eagerly anticipating the end of the school year and the start of their summer break. The same can’t be said for a number of divorced or separated parents. Summer vacation can deteriorate into a very stressful, chaotic and combative time for parents who share custody as well as a confusing time for their … Read more »

Who Should You Tell When You’re Over Your Divorce?

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You need to let them know that you’ve moved on. Diane L. Danois, J.D., Contributor to the Huffington Post Divorce Following a lengthy process of soul-searching and decision-making about what is most important in life, a moment of enlightenment occurs for many people post-divorce: they move on. They leave behind the vitriol and acidity of the years leading up to their divorce, and they re-learn how to live independently. They find themselves. They reinvent themselves. And for many, they … Read more »

5 Great Tips for Co-parenting Through the Holidays

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Posted by coparently.com team Easter is fast approaching. With it comes all those familiar stress factors for divorced and separated families. Holidays bring home the thought of coming together as a family. It’s often thought that a successful holiday means one big, happy family enjoying the festivities together. In movies, songs, television, and any other aspect of our media and culture, we are continuously reminded that the holidays are a time for the celebration of family. So when … Read more »

The Only Divorce Coping Tool You’ll Need for the Holidays

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Andra Brosh, PhD from GoodTherapy.org For many people reading this, this Easter/Passover is their first holiday season post-divorce. Getting through the holiday can compound an already stressful life transition. Managing the loss and grief on top of holiday socializing, shopping, and gift giving can be beyond overwhelming. My marriage ended several years ago right before Thanksgiving, and I clearly remember wondering how I would make it through the end of the year. I like to think of this time as … Read more »

Praise for Adoptive Moms and Stepmoms on Mother's Day

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Mother is a verb. Shared genes are optional. Denise Cummins Ph.D-from Psychology Today What do adoptive moms and stepmoms have in common? They believe that a family is a group of people who love and care for each other, and shared genes are optional. Birth Moms Nature gives birth mothers an advantage when it comes to forming emotional bonds with their children. During childbirth, both baby and mother are flooded with oxytocin—the hormone that promotes emotional bonding. Most birth mothers … Read more »